Actress/Hometown Gal Brynn Thayer Recalls Faith Presbyterian Hospice Coming To The Rescue

Dealing with a loved one’s final days is challenging, emotional and difficult to face. There are so many questions to answer and feelings revealed. That is why hospice is a blessing to so many. Before you go boo-hooing, think again. Hospice is a graceful and comforting program that makes a very rough situation much more bearable.

Wednesday, hundreds filling the Hilton Anatole’s Grand Ballroom totally were on board with the hospice transition of life for the “Each Moment Matters” luncheon benefiting Faith Presbyterian Hospice.

Nell Carvell

Starting promptly at noon with the promise of ending at 1

Cyndy Monie

p.m., Luncheon Co-Chairs Nell Carvell and Cyndy Monie headed up a well-run program from providing floor plan cards designating each person’s seat to Former Dallasites/actress Brynn Thayer flying in to be the featured speaker. She didn’t give a canned speech. No, she spoke from her recent experience in hospice care in dealing with her father Paul Thayer‘s death.

Brynn Thayer

Admitting that her father was a “horrible, horrible patient,” she went on to admit that she had “very little idea of what hospice care did.” When the time came when caring for her father was overwhelming for Brynn and her mother,

Margery Thayer

88-year-old Margery Thayer, they realized that hospice was the solution. But in searching for hospice providers how does one know where to turn? Brynn looked in the Yellow Pages. There were many providers, but one struck her eye. It was the one with “faith” in its title — Faith Presbyterian Hospice. Brynn took it as a sign. She called at 5:30 on a Sunday afternoon and left a voice message. Within an hour she got a return call and started the journey into hospice care. Brynn learned that Faith not only provided much needed assistance for her father but for her and her mother. From the man who set up the hospital bed in their home, the nurse to the receptionist, Brynn described them as “angels disguised as humans.”

Speaking of angels, the luncheon was also an opportunity to recognize “53 people who have made each moment matter in the lives of others. Some of these people are still living and some are no longer with us.” The following people were called up to be recognized: Deedy  and Rev. Walter Bennett (Walter is deceased), Cynthia Brannum, Wanda Brice and Tom Brunner, Marti J. Carlin, Jim Carvell, Victoria Smith Downing, Paula Oliver Duckworth (deceased), Claire and Dwight Emanuelson, Jay Evans, John Evans, Rev. Wendy Fenn, Lillie Francis, Faye Gould, Bill Hammett, Douglas D. Hawthorne, Rita Hortenstine, Jan E. Langbein, Rev. Cynthia Weeks Logan, John Andrew Martin, Lynn McBee, Andrew N. Meyercord, Jan and Marc Myers, Pamela Nelson, Dr. Oscar C. Page, Ken Pickett, Barbara Pittenger, Joel Porter, Ken Reiser, Sue Ringle, Mary Hancock Rowe, Terese Stevenson, Martha Stowe, Bette Johnson Swinney,  Becky Sykes, Larry Sykes, Billie and Gillis Thomas (Gil is deceased), Don A. Tidwell, Debbie Poole Tunnell, Larry Waisanen, Jean and Thomas Walter, Carolyn and Richard Walton (Richard is deceased), Judy Williamson, Dr. Linus D. Wright, Mary and Robert Wright and Cheri Cordet Zettel.

Well done, Brynn, the 53 folks who have made such an amazing difference, and the “angels disguised as humans.”

Marilyn Maye Returns To The Venetian Room For Cabaret Gala 2011 With A Tear And Twinkle In Her Eye

Marilyn Maye

Ella Fitzgerald once described Marilyn Maye as “the greatest white female singer in the world.” The chanteuse, whose legendary career includes 76 appearances on The Tonight Show, Grammy nominations and singing with Billie Holiday, Frank Sinatra and Judy Garland, has a special place in her heart and a tear in her eye when it comes to Dallas.

Back in the 70′s when the Fairmont’s Venetian Room was the place to be seen and see the country’s top entertainers (Sonny and Cher, Richard Harris, Marlene Dietrich, Pearl Bailey, the Smothers Brothers, Peggy Lee, Johnny Mathis, Tony Bennett, Lou Rawls, Patti Page, Carol King, Mitzi Gaynor, etc.), Betty Holloway was handling the pr for the newly opened hotel. Remember this was a time before the Hyatt Reunion, Hilton Anatole, Crescent, etc. Betty flawlessly handled the media and the celebrities. If there were hiccups, no one ever knew of them.

Marilyn was one of those entertainers who became one of Betty’s fans and best friends. All this explains why when MM appeared on the Venetian Room’s stage Saturday night for Cabaret Gala 2011 benefiting the Dallas Children’s Theater, she seemed to tear up and hesitate in recalling her friend who died in 1985. “She was my soul sister and I loved and admired her.”

Honor Franklin and Bob Mitchell

On a brighter note, Marilyn also made many other friends whom she called out from the stage like Carolyn Lupton and Dr. Honor Franklin with husband Dr. Bob Mitchell.

The 83-year-old’s Dallas appearance Saturday was the first in many years, but her voice hadn’t changed one iota, her eyes twinkled and she proved to the sold-out crowd that she could still do kicks and perform non-stop for 90 minutes.

Among the tales she shared with guests was the fact that she was the first to record “Cabaret” and “I’ll Never Fall In Love Again.”

Proving to be a ironclad professional, she spotted a problem with the feedback and called to her sound man, “Chad,” to correct it. No way Marilyn was going to pretend there wasn’t a problem. After sharing her frustrations with the sound situation with Chad and her trio, everything was back on track in perfect harmony.

Yvonne Crum and Ruth Buzzi

Because of the stage lights, Marilyn couldn’t see Ruth Buzzi and her husband Kent Perkins just inches away swaying to the Broadway tunes and laughing at Marilyn’s anecdotes. Immediately after leaving the stage, MM spotted the twosome and nearly hugged the air out of Ruthie.

Kent Perkins and Mayo Crum

Right next to Ruth and Kent were Gala Co-chair John Clutts and Raffle Chair Yvonne Crum. In announcing the sponsors on stage, John admitted, “If I massacred your name, it’s OK — my name is Clutts!” Yvonne, who joined him on stage for the raffle held her own nicely telling John, “If I’d known you were going to introduce me, I would have dressed up.” The two of them should have their own talk show.

Robyn Flatt

At another front row table were Honorary Chairs Julie and Ken Hersh. Back a row were Dallas Children’s Theater’s Executive Artistic Director/Founder Robyn Flatt and Arts District Leading Lady Veletta Lil. On the upper tier of tables was spotted The Dallas Opera’s Keith Cerny.

Making sure that everything went smoothly was DCT Associate Artistic Director Artie Olaisen, who reported that the DCT would be launching its 28th season at the Winspear.

It’s been way too long since Marilyn’s voice has been heard in Dallas. Hopefully, she’ll be jazzing it up locally again very soon.

TACA RBC Wealth Management Custom Auction Leaves Black Ties In The Closet For Dressy Casual

Kit Sawers

The TACA RBC Wealth Management Custom Auction showed all the signs of heavy duty adjustment Friday at the Mansion on Turtle Creek. Gone were the black tie, flowing gowns and flawless gems. Well, maybe the gems were still there, but the penguin brigade and trailing hems were replaced by “dressy casual,” formerly known as “shabby chic.” While the majority were feeling frisky about the dress code change, others hinted at a touch of regret. But the change had been deemed by event co-chair Kit Sawers. Was it a good idea? “Absolutely,” said the blonde Sawers. “The ladies want change.” According to Kit, Saturday night’s fine for a gala, but for Friday evening, it’s nice that men can come in a suit because a lot were probably coming straight from work.

Another change in the evening’s agenda was the number of guests. Last year it was 250. This year they added an additional 50 guests. This addition resulted in dinners being served in upstairs suites, as well as the usual restaurant facilities.

Speaking of upstairs at the Mansion, the buzz during the reception was about Journey. The musical group was staying at the luxury hotel for their sold-out Saturday concert. Word had it that former White House-party-crasher/separated-from-her-husband/Journey-groupie Michaele Salahi was upstairs having a “discussion” with lead guitarist Neal Schon.  TMZ probably has the details.

One of the top topics of the night was the Celebrity Waiter Luncheon held earlier in the day at the Ritz. Celebrity Waiter Tracy Rathbun, who had done a full split with restaurant partner Lynae Fearing, followed up her fundraising gig by heading to a five-year-old’s birthday party. Another survivor of the lunch summed it up by saying, “It was loud. There was annoying music. People were screaming. Other than that, it was fine.” As a Houston socialite legend once said, “In order to be successful, one must be controversial.” Guess that means the luncheon fundraiser for Family Gateway was a success!

Dallas Dillon and Heidi Dillon

Heidi Dillon was back from summer in California with an adorable, tall blonde fella. Don’t get the wrong impression. It was her son Dallas, who spent the summer growing very, very tall.

Lucy Wrubel

Back to TACA. With the less formal dress, a younger set of guests were expected, so DJ Lucy  Wrubel had her game plan in place — start with a “cocktail set,” then for dinner French influenced music and after the auction, “We’re gonna throw it down.” Lucy was set up in the Pavilion behind a grand lit bar that extended the full length of the room. She wasn’t by herself. On either side barkeeps were tending champagne and other alcoholic concoctions. When asked if she had recovered from her jumping and jiving on a mini-trampoline at the previous week’s Dallas Symphony Orchestra gala, she sheepishly admitted that she broke two of the springs.

The Mansion’s candle lit bar

As the cocktail set played and the guests talked and drank and talked on the Promenade and in the Pavilion, the Mansion looked stellar with candles everywhere and marvelous floral arrangements by Todd Fiscus.

Mansion wine cellar

Then it was time for a delicious dinner of poached gulf shrimp with Texas melon salad, lime, tobiko and lobster vinaigrette and sarawak pepper-crusted beef filet and short rib-stuffed piquillo pepper with smoked potato puree and Tassione Farms greens prepared by Mansion Executive Chef Bruno Davaillon.

Andy Teller

While TACA President Andy Teller and the RBC Wealth Management top echelon dined in the Mansion’s wine cellar,

Hal and Diane Brierley

Diane and Hal Brierley were joined by AT&T Performing Arts CEO Mark Weinstein. This was his first TACA Custom Auction, don’t you know. When asked if they had a specific item in mind, the Brierleys hinted that they had a pick but weren’t talking. . . On the Verandah were The Dallas Opera’s Keith Cerny, who was getting to unveil TDO’s Wall of Honor for the 21st Century on Wednesday, and Tincy and Vance Miller just a table away recalling their courtship at SMU. .  .

Dillard Spring

Dillard Spring was making her final rounds as TACA’s marketing director before heading to the East Coast. . .

Allan and Lynn McBee

While others had to walk to the restaurant area via the driveway, Lynn and Allan McBee managed to talk their way into the hallway from the Pavilion to the bar.

By this time, every- one was prime for the live auction. As they gathered back in the Pavilion and packed it to the hilt, there was just a whiff of bargain hunting in the air. Think Sam Moon prices at Tiffany & Co.

Matthew Simon and Todd Fiscus

At times it was hard to tell who was bidding for what due to the number of gorgeous

Auction crowd

people filling the room. How auctioneer Mike Jones could spot bidders was amazing, but he’s an old hand at eyeballing a winning hand.

Peter Bowling, Karen Mordecai, Kent Rathbun

The biggy trip to glamorama Capella Pedregal in Cabo San Lucas, Tara Lewis and John Swords joined forces with Carol Calkins to win the prize for a nice $27,500. On hand to congratulate them were master chef Kent Rathbun, who is putting together a wine and cooking trip to the resort, and Pedregal General Manager Peter Bowling.

Another trip, The Bermuda Getaway (value: $11,200) cost Bill Bogart $12,500.

As Lel Echols, who snapped up the Tod ‘s Italian Experience, put it when asked if he was a big Tod’s fan, “No, I’m a big TACA fan.”

Perhaps that explains why the less-than-a dozen items brought in $119,000 from the live auction totaling $400,400 for the night’s take  – $400 more than TACA’s goal.

Sold Out Alert: Equest, Or Despite Highland Park Village Evacuation, Equest And Jimmy Choo Recover Nicely

There’s something quite fabulous about having your pick of parking places at Highland Park Village. It’s a rarity in the first degree of shopping. Usually, the place is so slammed with luxury vehicles that you can spend a tank of gas just trying to park your car. Ah, but Wednesday that wasn’t the case.

Jimmy Choo boots

As reported, HPV experienced its second “evacuation” in a week due to a gas leak. No, there were no bullhorns ordering people to race for safer parts and there were no paramedics offering oxygen to folks overcome by fumes. It was very Park Cities — calm, orderly and stiff upper lip.

But the ladies of Equest weren’t too pleased to hear of the situation just minutes before their sponsor party at Jimmy Choo’s was to take place. And yet, the gods of fundraising were looking kindly on the ladies and at 4:02, the word was released that Jimmy Choo was back in business and would let the ladies shop.

Well, since the evacuation was such a success, there were available parking places all over the HPV. As the guests arrived to shop, waiters and busboys sat on the curb at Marquee Grill wondering if they would be serving dinner.

Barbara Stuart

The Equest guests on the other hand had absolutely no doubts about their plans. Checking out everything from perfume to luscious suede boots, they were more than pleased to hear that Tuesday’s luncheon at Brook Hollow Golf Club was a sellout and no gas leak would prevent the HPV merchants from providing the fashions.

So, if you haven’t gotten your tickets, you might drop by HP Village. That is, unless there’s another gas leak.

NorthTexas Giving Day Results Are Mindblowing

Remember back on September 15 when North Texas Giving Day took place and generous donors blew the heck out of the DonorBridge website and clogged up the telephone lines? Remember when you were frustrated and thought about giving up, but stuck to it and made your contribution anyhow?

Well, it paid off. It paid off big time — 13,500 donations including the $1 million matching funds and prize money totaling $10.7 million was raised in which 600 North Texas nonprofits will share. Do you realize what a major difference you made for these organizations?

“This year’s results are an astounding new milestone,” said Brent Christopher, president and CEO of Communities Foundation of Texas, a DonorBridge founder. “To have donated this year more than twice the total donated last year is a testament to North Texans’ generous support for the vital work our nonprofits do. We are absolutely blown away by the people who donated.”

By the way, if you’re wondering who won the prizes, here you go –

  • Wesley Prep, which raised the largest cumulative donation amount of nearly $378,652 (excluding the matching funds and prize money)
  • Buckner International, which attracted the most unique individual donations (224) for a nonprofit with an operating budget over $1 million;
  • Parkinson Voice Project, which recruited the most unique individual donations (134) for a nonprofit with an operating budget under $1 million;
  • Union Gospel Mission of Tarrant County, which received the 1,929th donation, a prize honoring the year The Dallas Foundation was founded; and
  • Interfaith Housing Coalition, which received the 2,011th donation, a gift coincidentally made by an agency employee.

Now, aren’t you proud of yourself? Stop what you’re doing, go to the mirror and say, “Well done!” And while you’re at it, think very, very good thoughts about the organizations that spearheaded this incredibly successful program — Communities Foundation of Texas, The Dallas Foundation and the Center for Nonprofit Management.

Question: Who Made Wednesday The New Thursday?

MySweetCharity’s Queenie arrived at the headquarters doorstep this evening looking like a Dallas social zombie.Usually we don’t see her in this condition until Sunday morning. She was babbling and apologizing to invisible people past, present and future for not RSVP-ing, attending and/or opening invitations to events.

It seems Wednesday had been the breaking point — Each Moment Matters, Clayton Dabney, Stiletto Strut Kickoff, Equest sponsor party, Dallas Opera Wall of Honor, Tablescapes and Robert Folsom Leadership Award sponsor party.

After the MSC elves force-fed her with triple espresso latte and a shot of oxygen, she was steady enough to confess that September had proven that Dallas nonprofits were into overdrive. Gone were the traditional Mondays of calm, the routine Tuesdays with a luncheon and a Wednesday with two events. Things were just downright exploding eight-days-a-week.

We apologize for Queenie’s momentary lack of good grace. She’s a good, old gal . . . with an emphasis on “old” . .  . and will try to clean up her act, as soon as she catches up.

More espresso, please.

The Dallas Opera Presents 21st Century Wall Of Honor With Seven Honorees At The Winspear Opera House

Dallas Opera Board Chairman Dr. Kern Wildenthal, Mary McDermott Cook, Don and Ellen Winspear, Rogene Russell, Margot and Ross Perot, Tom and Phyllis McCasland, Dallas Opera General Director/CEO Keith Cerny and James R. Seitz, Jr.

The Dallas Opera continues to show vim and vigor in development activities. Not only was Chairman of the Board Kern Wildenthal on KRLD with David Johnson, but this afternoon The Dallas Opera’s 21st Century Wall of Honor was presented acknowledging seven of the TDO’s most generous donors and foundations from the past decade.

In the west lobby of the Margot and Bill Winspear Opera House the following heroes were recognized: Phyllis and Tom McCasland, Margaret McDermott, Margot and Ross Perot/The Perot Foundation, James R. Seitz Jr., the Elsa Von Seggern Foundation, Margot and Bill Winspear and our old friend, Mr/s. Anonymous.

According to TDO, each has “given multi-million dollar gifts to the Dallas Opera in the 21st century and made tremendous contributions to both the artistic and financial strength of the company.”

Kern said, “The Dallas Opera is extremely fortunate to be the beneficiary of some of the most respected and visionary philanthropists in North Texas. Their past generosity has defined the Dallas cultural landscape and their gifts to TDO in the 21st century have helped this company to weather the worst economic downturn since the Great Depression.

“Together, these people have created a model of cultural and civic leadership that will endure for generations to come,” Kern concluded.

TDO General Director/CEO Keith Cerny added, “We are enormously grateful to each of these benefactors and foundations that have made The Dallas Opera a part of their 21st century mission. They have demonstrated a generosity of spirit that elevates gift-giving to an art form all its own, and I am proud to be able to share with patrons and visitors to the Winspear Opera House how much this company has benefited from their extraordinary giving, as well as, their formidable expertise.”

Photo credit: Karen Arnold

Here We Go Again — HP Village Being Evacuated Again

UPDATE (4:10 p.m.): Jimmy Choo is back in business, so the party is back on. Go spend!

For the second time in a week, the Highland Park Village is being evacuated due to a gas leak.

Translation: If you were heading to the Jimmy Choo party for Equest starting at 4, check back  and we’ll let you know if it’s safe to head to the party.

The Wyly Family Elects To Have Private “Celebration Of Life” For The Late Charles Wyly Jr.

Charles and Dee Wyly

Several people have inquired if there would be a memorial service for the late Charles Wyly Jr., who died as the result of a traffic accident in Aspen last month.  During his life, Charles supported countless worthy causes through his personal involvement and his incredible generosity. In the coming months, many nonprofits and charitable organizations are undertaking their own tributes to honor and show their appreciation and respect for his acts of kindness.

For this reason, the Wyly family has elected to have a private “Celebration of Life” for close Dallas family and friends at the Wyly home on Saturday, October 1.

May the family’s adjustment to life without Charles be eased by the respect and understanding of the many whose lives have been touched by him.

Just In: Pizza Hut To Co-present Annual Children’s Medical Center Holiday Parade

Joining Capital One Bank as a presenting sponsor of the Children’s Medical Center Holiday Parade in downtown Dallas is Pizza Hut. The Plano-based corporation dug into the company coffers and pulled out $1 million to make the deal sweet.

According to Pizza Hut U.S. General Manager Brian Niccol, “Pizza Hut is all about families. Children(Medical Center)‘s is a lifeline for families who need medical care for their children. Like me, many of our employees had personal experiences with Children’s. The partnership is a perfect fit for us as we live and work in the same community [where] Children’s operates.”

The parade that airs live locally on WFAA (ABC) benefits the Child Life Department at Children’s.

This year’s parade will take place on Saturday, December 3, when, hopefully, cooler temperatures will return.

Junior League of Collin County Celebrates Its 35th Anniversary By Giving Back To Community

The Junior League of Collin County knows how to celebrate. To commemorate its 35th anniversary, the JLCC gave $35,000 to the Education Foundations in Plano, McKinney, Allen and Frisco.

The funds are designated for each school’s fourth-grade-classes “to experience a field trip to the science and technology museum as well as to support special  museum-supported assemblies at each school.

Ladies, congratulations on 35 years of making Collin County the star it is. You’re looking mighty fine!